Would you believe that your daughter is now more likely to get a college degree of any level than your son as well as do excel in school from start to finish? If you view those stats from 1970 to the projected amounts for 2020, an alarming shift is underway. It’s nothing against daughters (I have 3 of them), but what does this bespeak of my sons’ future (I have 3 of them too)? I don’t want to be obsessed with the idea that manhood is under full-scale attack, but something is up!
God didn’t just create you to be male. He created you to be a man. And that’s not a given. Godly manhood is a role that we choose to embrace. God set men down on this planet and said, "Conquer it. Take ownership and leadership. Cultivate and build." So, at no point, did God tell men, "Go, be gruff, rude, selfish, and step on people." He has called men to servant leadership, following in the footsteps and example of Christ. So we’re to nurture, to build, and to initiate - in a humble manner - just like Christ does for us and for the church and for all His creation.
Just how important is fatherhood anyway? Our culture has no answer as it can’t think of one good reason for fatherhood beyond the biological one. For that matter, many fathers can’t add any more items to the list. Shall we listen to our culture? I’m not sure what our listless age has to commend to itself to be our guide. God, as the Master Designer, is left out of our thinking and the consequences are horrific. That’s where one of the most incredible books on fathers I have ever read comes into play. “Father Hunger” by Douglas Wilson is profound and greatly impacted me. Every page was like the hard steel blades of the plow tilling through the soil of my heart.